Monday, November 14th, 2016
“Rome wasn’t built in a day”. It’s the same when it comes to taking positive action to improve any aspect of our life. Instead of trying to do it all at once, we have to work on one thing at a time.
Creating positive rituals is nothing more than establishing goals and focusing on them daily until they become a ritual.
Extensive research shows that as little as 5 percent of our behaviors are consciously self-directed. We are creatures of habit and as much as 95 percent of what we do occurs automatically or in reaction to a demand or an anxiety.
The bottom line is that if we want to incorporate new, positive, and long-term behaviors into our lives, we can’t expend much energy sustaining them.
The long-term power of rituals evolves from the fact that they conserve energy. Instead of relying on willpower and discipline, which can make us feel forced to act, a carefully conceived ritual draws us to action.
Rituals are precise, consciously acquired behaviors that become automatic in our lives, fueled by a deep sense of purpose.
Rituals themselves can change. A positive ritual must be fueled by a deeply felt value. As long as that value is still important, then the ritual has life, and you want to perpetuate it. But sometimes a ritual becomes negative or outdated, so we might change it slightly.
On the other hand, the bigger the storm, the more inclined we are to revert to our survival habits, and the more important positive rituals become.
Summing-up: The more of our key behaviors we can put under the automatic and more efficient control of habit, the more likely we are to accomplish the things that truly matter to us. Through Positive Rituals, we can tend to and address what is important in our lives, rather than leave these priorities to chance or self-discipline.