Monday, July 18th, 2016
It feels easier to lie sometimes than tell the truth, doesn’t it? After all, you’re being kind, sparing someone’s feelings. You don’t want anyone to think you’re a bad person or someone that isn’t thoughtful. The interesting thing is that when you lie, you’re not being kind or thoughtful or anything else other than someone who is covering their behind.
Remember, any action, hard or soft, can be done with you seeing another person as equal to you. Now, the biggest lie you’re telling is that you’re lying for them, not you. Get over it. You can learn to speak even the hardest of truths with love, respect and compassion.
Start by telling yourself the truth instead of buying into your excuses. The funny thing about making excuses is that we can always come up with excuses for why we do it. How does it make you feel when you invite someone to do something and you know that their reply is just an excuse to cover up the fact that they don’t really want to?
Being honest is not the same as being rude, although it does require a dash of consideration to avoid hurting other people’s feelings. We can, and should, learn to soften our honesty with a bit of tact. We can also explain to others that we care about them and don’t want to hurt their feelings, but out of respect we want to be honest.
Consider, who are you pushing out the door with your lies? Ultimately, most lies are uncovered and do much more damage than starting with the truth ever could. There is no foundation for trust, innovation or risk in a culture that is built on lies, half-truths and empty promises.
If you tell the truth, it becomes a part of your past. If you lie, it becomes a part of your future.
Summing-up: There’s no need to keep track of lies when you tell the truth. “I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” – Nietzsche.