Thursday, October 20th, 2016
Ego is a Latin word that means “I myself.” An individual who views themselves realistically, and recognizes both their strengths and weaknesses, is generally perceived to have a healthy ego. Those of us who have “unhealthy” egos, on the other hand, tend to preserve their self-judgments and close themselves off to the opinions of others.
Ego is the mask we wear, the facade we show to the world. It is our ego that knows all the answers, is always right and cannot be vulnerable. The definition of humility is recognizing our need to ask for help. So when we refuse help, being too embarrassed, uncomfortable or prideful, our Ego is rearing it’s head keeping us stuck.
Every time we make a decision based in Ego we leave chaos and destruction in our wake. Although we think of it in positive terms (i.e., confidence, self-worth) ego is a very destructive force. In essence, ego is the desire to receive for the self alone and a vacuous hole that can never be filled.
The Ego makes you do or say things in a way that pleases you and makes you feel powerful. It incites you to tower above everyone else.
Your Ego’s responses are not very sophisticated; the Ego is like a child that hasn’t learned about life yet. Its responses are emotional and fearful in nature. Learning to work with your Ego doesn’t mean you ignore it, control it or dominate it. You simply lead it like a parent does their child. You listen, have compassion for it and hold strong boundaries. You don’t let it take over with its tantrums or fear. You help guide it and show it how to be with complexity and uncertainty.
Summing-up: Ego is instant gratification and will stop at nothing to satiate, causing destruction of unimaginable forms in our wake. There is no positive attribute of Ego. Lead and leave your Ego at the door.