Friday, August 19th, 2016
Praise and recognition is the bell that drives human behavior. Saying, “Thank you” is a universal concept with an underlying definition that means, “Please repeat that specific behavior again.” Companies that effectively praise and recognize their staff are much more profitable.
Has someone ever given you a compliment and you subconsciously questioned their motives? Perhaps it was even subconsciously. Maybe you just downright wondered if they wanted something in return.
It’s nice to give compliments. It’s better to give unquestionably sincere ones. The kind that leaves no doubt that you meant what you said and that you expect nothing in return.
An unquestionably sincere compliment actually has two parts. The compliment and the evidence to back it up. Think of it this way; you give someone a compliment and then notice this look on their face. The look indicates that they are wondering why you said that.
So don’t let them wonder. Immediately after giving the compliment just add “and the reason I say that is.” The “reason” is the evidence. It adds depth to the compliment, it supports it’s sincerity. It leaves no doubt as to your motive for giving it. The compliment becomes more valuable.
This takes a bit of work, it requires some thought before you just toss out the next “nice job” compliment. It’s worth it however when you see the difference in how people respond to what you’ve said. Give it a try and see for yourself.
Finally, the only proper way of responding to a compliment is to say “thank you.” Nothing more is needed. Just say thanks!
Summing-up: Praise only when compliments are earned, and tell them giving also the evidence, the reason. This way the compliment sounds sincere and becomes more valuable.