Wednesday, July 20th, 2016
The moment we fail in any aspect of life, we start looking for a people or circumstances on which we can blame our failure.
One of the most destructive human pastimes is playing the blame game. It has been responsible for mass casualties of war, regrettable acts of road rage, and on a broad interpersonal level (social, familial and work-related), a considerable amount of human frustration and unhappiness. The blame game consists of blaming another person for an event or state of affairs thought to be undesirable, and persisting in it instead of proactively making changes that ameliorate the situation.
Blaming others is neither going to convert failure into success nor it is going to teach us a lesson for the future. It is quite possible that others might have contributed to the failure; however, if we deeply analyze it, we will find that ourselves are the major cause of failure.
There is a need to develop a havit of identifying fault in self, instead of others. Playing the blame game never works. People who blame others for their mistakes lose status, learn less, and perform worse relative to those who own up to their mistakes.
Always focus on learning. Accept responsibility for your actions. Take it from Albert Einstein: “Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment and learn again to exercise his will – his personal responsibility.”
Summing-up: Don’t blame others for your mistakes. The temptation is huge to point the finger elsewhere when you make a mistake. Resist it. Not only will you gain respect and loyalty from your followers, you’ll also help to prevent a culture of blame from emerging.