Wednesday, July 20th, 2016
Anger is one letter short of Danger. When flame of anger ignites, the very first thing it does is to destroy our wisdom. Whatever begins in anger; ends up in shame. When anger opens its gate, wisdom closes all its outlets. In anger intellect stops working and control goes in the hands of emotions. When we regain our cool, we regret our actions. However, by that time anger is done with its job of destruction. Subsequently, keeping control on anger is the highest level of wisdom.
Anger is just anger. It isn’t good. It isn’t bad. It just is. What you do with it is what matters. It’s like anything else. You can use it to build or to destroy. You just have to make the choice. It is wise to direct your anger towards problems — not people; to focus your energies on answers — not excuses.
The main reason of anger is our EGO. When other person is unsuccessful in fulfilling our expectations, our ego starts building negative thoughts towards that person. We do not see the reason behind it especially from other’s point of view. Rather we keep on expecting from our viewpoint. The irony is that our anger is quicker and aggressive for our dear ones. Anger and stress live together in our mind and is the main cause of our bad health.
As soon as you realize that your anger is increasing, stop all communications. Revisit the situation from other person’s point of view, analyze and find out actual cause of unpleasant situation. One of the greatest lessons we can learn in life is how to keep mute when the boiling ring of anger is dropped within us.
Summing-up: Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.