Monday, July 18th, 2016
Take a look at an apple tree. There might be five hundred apples on the tree, but each apple has just ten seeds. That’s a lot of seeds! We might ask, “Why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few more apple trees?”
Nature has something to teach us here. It’s telling us: “Not all seeds grow. In life, most seeds never grow. So if you really want to make something happen, you had better try more than once.”
When we understand the “Law of the Seed“, we don’t get so disappointed. We stop feeling like victims. We learn how to deal with things that happen to us.
Laws of nature are not things to take personally. We just need to understand them – and work with them. In a nutshell: Successful people fail more often. But they plant more seeds.
When things are beyond your control, here’s something that you must NOT DO so as to be happy: You must not decide how you think the world SHOULD be. You must not make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave. Many times, such thoughts can bring you spiralling down into more unhappiness.
There’s a better strategy: Demand less, and instead, have preferences! For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself: “I would prefer “A”, but if “B” happens, it’s OK too!”
You prefer that people are polite.. but when they are rude, it doesn’t ruin your day. You prefer sunshine.. but if it rains, it is ok too!
Summing-up: It is not the problem that is the issue, but rather it is your attitude attending to the problem that is the problem. It’s not what happens to you that determine your happiness but rather how you think about what happens to you! It is your thoughts that matter!