Wednesday, December 14th, 2016
There is a human tendency to judge things quickly, to go with the familiar or what looks correct instead of giving a question or a problem sufficient attention, reflection, and thought.
The problem with judgments is that once we have decided, we stop looking for other options or explanations. When we judge, we have found the “truth” and we stop looking. Further, when making a judgment about a person, we quickly move that one judgment to a whole set of beliefs and further judgments about them.
As human beings living in a complex world, we use our brain to make hundreds of decisions each day. Judgments are necessary for us to function in our daily lives and many are accurate, or at least aren’t likely to cause problems if they are wrong. The problem is in making that our subconscious habit – to move from intuition to judgment in situations where it doesn’t serve us best.
We must recognize that judgments made about people can often be incomplete, if not misleading or inaccurate. We must use our intuition, and when we judge, we must be self-aware enough to recognize that is what we are doing, and make a conscious decision on whether judgment is helpful or accurate in that situation, rather than operating purely on autopilot.
Summing-up: There is a fine line between intuition and judgment. We have to approach it carefully, intentionally, and consciously. When we do that, we will be better coaches, parents, friends, learners, and human beings.