Monday, October 17th, 2016
It’s important to have goals, but the problem with some of them is that they defer happiness and good habits away from the now and off into the future.
This is an example of how goals can obstruct one’s daily sense of satisfaction and ability to be present and grateful. Keep ambition as your friend and not your enemy by putting it in check.
Despite how fantastic your product is, or how flawless your value proposition, or your communication and pitching skills, you might still be outshone by someone who has more experience, better connections, or who plays golf with the boss.
But you can actively do to keep your ambition in check:
Celebrate the imperfect success of today: Don’t fall into the trap of bemoaning how unfair business is or pushing your happiness to some pie-in-the-sky day. Find pride in the life you are living right now, even if your business is still in the red. As an adult, happiness is finding gratitude in spite of how imperfect everything is.
Center yourself: Ambition is crucial for success, but too much of it means that you become obsessed with the end result. Refusing to be happy now in some ways means you’re refusing to be happy ever, as there will always be a new set of challenges, obstacles, and stresses to wrestle with in the future. Take a break and enjoy the sunset. Distancing yourself from your work for a moment in solitude can offer a wealth of perspective.
Exert control over what you actually have control over: You have control over doing the best work that you are capable of. You also have control over whether you make fun, impactful choices in the course of your day–particularly ones that have a certain amount of calculated risk and potential danger.
Summing-up: Wherever you and your ambition aim to end up, be grateful for where you are right now and what you have right now. The future doesn’t belong to any of us. All you have is this moment.